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Who is your HERO?

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Our heroes shape us…  They shape our values…

Our heroes display us…  Who our heroes are show people what we look like on the inside…

Our heroes give us hope…  They give us something to reach for, to dream for, to become…

Who is YOUR Hero?

 

 

 

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10 Sentences That Can Change Your Life for The Better

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SO WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE ENCOURAGING PHRASE OF ALL TIME?

Sometimes life just grabs you by the throat… or 1somewhere else, and it won’t let go!

It’s times like those that we need PERSPECTIVE… Someone to come along and encourage us.

Help us see through the clutter.  Shake up our mind and wake up our heart.

Give us hope.  My hope is that maybe one of these graphics will do that for YOU!
10 Sentences That Can Change Your Life for The Better – StumbleUpon.

 

IT’S YOUR TURN TO HELP… SO WHAT’S YOUR FAVORITE ENCOURAGING PHRASE OF ALL TIME?

RESPOND AND LET US KNOW!

 

 

JARGONAUTICS- “Execucrat”

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article-new_ds-photo_getty_article_142_238_78228484_XSJARGONAUTICS- The study of new JARGON as it invades our lives…  Here’s today’s lesson…

“You do not lead by hitting people over the head – that’s assault, not leadership.” — Dwight D. Eisenhower

EXECUCRAT- noun

1) An executive who oversteps his/her authority or good leadership sense, abusing their position of power;

2) A boss or manager who places his/her personal or ideological agenda above the good of the organization by making authoritarian decisions counter to the general consensus of the organization or team members;

3) A politician whose votes, actions, choices and message run counter to the general will of the those whom he/she represents, and yet they continue to pursue legislation and policies that are based less on fact and reason but more on personal prejudice and political persuasion.

“The leaders who work most effectively, it seems to me, never say  ‘I.’ And that’s not because they have trained themselves not to say ‘I.’ They don’t think ‘I.’ They think ‘we’; they think ‘team.’  They understand their job to be to make the team function. They accept responsibility and don’t sidestep it, but ‘we’ gets the credit…. This is what creates trust, what enables you to get the task  done.” — Peter Drucker

There’s a Shadow on the X-Ray…

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OK, there are some things you don’t want to hear your doctor say…

Among those things you DON”T want to hear is this list provided by Roger Sampson:

1. Oops.
2. Wow, never seen this before.6092538994_9edd40d36c
3. Your wife will still love you.
4. This is really, really going to hurt.
5. Three enemas a day for a month ought to do the trick.
6. I think I can help you but your insurance won’t cover it.
7. It’s either a broken leg or an ear infection. Hmm, tough call.
8. Congratulations, your wife just gave birth to a boy, at least we think it’s a boy.
9. You know those pills I gave you last week and told you to take 8 every hour? Silly me, I meant one pill every 8 hours.
10. For this next procedure, we’ll need payment up front, in cash.
11. E.D. is quite common with men in your situation, trust me, I’ve seen your wife. 
12. We’re going to take your temperature the old fashion way today.
13. Nurse, I’m going to need a mess of towels, a vacuum pump, a Philips head screwdriver, some super glue and get my lawyer on the phone.
14. Our Father who art in Heaven….
15. Wow, that growth I removed last week has grown back twice the size.
16. At least you’ll still have one left.
17. I could have sworn they had an antidote for this.
18. I know this Pharmacist in Tijuana.
19. This is the first vasectomy I’ve ever performed. Let’s get started.
20. Now this is one hell of a needle!
21. Because of the rareness of your illness, I want you to take this experimental drug. Don’t worry, the success rate in the monkeys we gave it to wasn’t half bad.
22. Whoa, two aspirins and a call to me in the morning ain’t gonna do it this time.
23. You do know how to use a suppository don’t you?

Now, although that list is hilarious when it involves someone else, I found out recently it’s not so humorous when it’s YOU the doctor is talking to.  Following an X-ray of my esophagus as he was looking for a possible hernia, my doctor reported back that he had good news, and not so good news.  The good news?  No hernia!  The not so good news?  There was a shadow on one of my lungs, and he wanted to do a CAT scan to check it out.

For some of you, maybe that wouldn’t be so scary.  But for a guy who has lost both of his parents to lung cancer in the last 4 years, it was more than a little unsettling.  Now the rest of the story.  There is a nodule, but it’s benign.  Doc says, “We’ll CT it again in 6 months, but for now it looks fine.”  I gotta say, the relief I feel is more than I can put into words.  But as I reflect back on the last few weeks, some important lessons jumped out at me.

  • Transparency is the best indicator of Intimacy & Trust.  It’s interesting who I didn’t tell, who I told, and who I told how I was really feeling.  I shared it with my family, with my church group, and with a few other close friends too.   But one person I didn’t share it with is my baby brother.  Due to some family conflict, he’s removed himself from our family for now.  My other 3 brothers are some of my best friends in the world, and among the first I let in on what was happening.  It left a void to not be able to share it with my youngest sibling.  But it doesn’t matter if you are brothers, co-workers or next door neighbors, if there’s no transparency in the relationship and events of life, it’s most likely because the intimacy and trust is just not there.   Ask yourself, “Who do I trust the most, and who do I struggle with trusting? Why?”   It may highlight some relationship issues that you need to work on.
  • It shouldn’t take a major health scare to force you to evaluate where you are in life.  I turn 50 this year.  Half a century.  Dang.  Where did the time go?  This event caused me to slow down the crazy, hectic pace of my life and survey the landscape, both behind and in front of me.  In the rear view mirror I’m forced to ask, “Do I like where I’ve been?  What I’ve accomplished?  What I’ve become?”  As I look forward, I consider “Given the time I have left on this earth, how do I want to make it count the most?  What’s most important that’s still left for me to do?  What changes do I need to make in my life in the days ahead?”   Are you brave enough to ask yourself these same questions?
  • Faith, Hope and Love are still the most powerful forces in our lives.   I’m honest when I say I was a little bit afraid of what the doctor might find.  I’m just as truthful when I say that I was OK with whatever he found.  My faith in God is not just built on a set of ancient rules and weekend activities.  I have personal relationship with Him, and it’s His grace that has brought me safe this far, and as the song goes, “His grace will lead me home” someday.  I share a Hope with millions of other believers who know God in a personal way, and that Hope is not just in an afterlife in Heaven, but a hope based on God’s intentional and passionate pursuit of me everyday.  I know He wants what’s best for me, and whatever the circumstance, He will see me through it.  I Corinthians 13 says, “Faith, hope and love, these three abide, but the greatest of these is love.”  I’ve known and been shown tremendous love recently from my wife and kids, my pastors and church small group members, my co-workers and friends.  I’ve truly felt God’s love for me in a new way as well.    These three- faith, hope and love- are the pillars of my faith, my inner core, my journey through this life.   How are you doing in these areas?

Maybe you’re doing OK in life right now; you might even say fantastic!  But if the storm hasn’t come, trust me, it will.  When it does, will you be ready for it?   Synergy is about the combined efforts, energy, strength of the many, coming together and the end result being much greater than just the sum of these individual parts.  It works that same way has you face the challenges in life.  Don’t be an island in the midst of the storms of life.  The Lone Ranger had Tonto, Batman had Robin, even the Skipper had Gilligan.  Surround yourself with people that you can support and encourage, and invite them into your journey to do the same for you.

How can you be more transparent with those you love?  Or with those that you need to love?

What is there in your life that needs to be evaluated, changed, revamped or scrapped?

If your faith, hope or love need to be stretched to include someone new today, what are you waiting for?

Lust… it’s not just what you think it is…

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Lust… it’s not just what you think it is…

Henry Kissinger once said, “Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac.”  Before I go any farther, let me be the first to admit that it’s SO TOTALLY WRONG to put the words “Henry Kissinger” and “aphrodisiac” in the same sentence… not the best way visually to make a point… or is it?  Before you get a vision of famous diplomat in a nighty surrounded by candlelight, let’s step back into a not-so-revolting world of reality…  We’re talking teamwork… synergy…

I’ve been talking about the  “7 Deadly Sins That Kill Synergy”… They are:

  1. Wrath(Anger)- I’ve tried to work with others before, and they just end up hacking me off!
  2. Greed(Selfishness)- I don’t want anyone else affecting my project, my job, my stuff… it’s mine….
  3. Sloth(Laziness)- I’d rather just do it myself, rather than hassle with input from other people.
  4. Pride(Arrogance)- I don’t want anyone’s help, or need it. I’m good enough without them!
  5. Lust(Unhealthy Craving)- Leave me alone! It’s my way! It’s my idea! It’s my project!
  6. Envy(Jealousy)- What if I look stupid asking for help, or someone else shows me up?
  7. Gluttony(Selfishness)- If I’m going to work this hard, I don’t want anyone to get credit but ME.  

Any organization that wants it’s teams to grow, thrive & produce at the highest possible level has to actively and consistently engage with the team members. of those teams knocking it out of the park.  When individual members of the team become “lustful”… wanting all the spotlight, all of the resources and all of the power and control of the project or event, then the group is in for some hard times!  This deadly sin of “lust” regarding synergy happens when individuals look at what roles or resources others have, and have an overwhelming desire to take those away from others and use them for their own gain or success.

SPOTLIGHTER…

It happens to some team members when they see someone else getting more ‘face time’ in front of the boss or client.  The individual begins searching for ways to put themselves into the spotlight when it’s not where they belong.  They interrupt conversations, schedule meetings that they shouldn’t, offer unsolicited input and even make decisions outside of their area of influence.  Left unchecked this person can damage not only their own reputation, but jeopardize the task at hand and the success of the venture.

STUFFGRUBBER

From time to time a team member also loses their true focus, and starts lusting after someone else’s resources.  Instead of following the old adage, “Do the best where you are with what you have”, they look for ways to use, misuse or abuse the resources of other team members.  It may be personnel, finances, equipment a variety of other resources that are usurped, but one thing is sure… this individual cares less about the success of the event, and more about their own personal gain.  The defense used by these stuff grubbers when challenged on this behavior is typically, “But we’re all on the same team/project, right?  I thought it would be OK since it was all for the same cause?”.   Stuff grubbers rarely are bold enough to admit that they wanted it, so they took it.

POWERHUNGRY

Finally, there are some people who don’t really care about the spotlight or the resources… their addiction of choice is power.  They cast a longing eye towards the bosses chair or the managers desk name plate, and they want it BAD.  They are convinced that it’s power that is rightfully theirs, and truthfully all would be better, more efficient and more successful if people would just give away their power to this power hungry  individual.  They don’t want the influence and authority that they believe is beyond their ability to handle.  They are just convinced that those commodities truthfully should be theirs already, giving them perfect comfort to use any means necessary to get that power.  Jacques Maritain, in “The Democratic Charter,” Man and the State says, “Authority and power are two different things: power is the force by means of which you can oblige others to obey you. Authority is the right to direct and command, to be listened to or obeyed by others. Authority requests power. Power without authority is tyranny.”  What this power grubber doesn’t understand is that they lack power because they lack authority.

SO WHAT?

IT’S YOU… So what if you find out that YOU are the one dealing with a Lust problem that’s damaging the group?  It could be through your own observation that you spot this flaw.  It may be graphically brought to your attention by a boss or coworker.  But whatever the mode of communication, you know and you see that it’s YOU.  What do you do then?

  • Evaluate- If you become painfully aware that YOU are this person, it’s time for some reflection, both by yourself and by others who know you well.  These others need to be people who know you well, aren’t afraid to speak the truth to you, and are somewhat familiar with the people and situational dynamics of your situation.  Only then can you move through and move past this damaging character trait.
  • Reflect- Take some time to digest what you’ve just been exposed to.  Sometimes the truth hurts, and we want to justify or deny what others see so clearly.  Ask yourself, “So what if ________________ is really true?  What am I going to do about it to change?”  Another good activity is to brainstorm a list of the existing problems that may have been created as a result of your “lustful” actions, and follow it up with a list of options for correcting any problems and preventing this in the future…

IT’S SOMEONE ELSE

  • Make a Plan- Before you confront anyone about this issue, you need to spend some serious time in developing a plan for how/when/where you will communicate with them, what you’ll say, and how you will leave that meeting.  Honesty is crucial when dealing with this kind of a challenge.  However, when backed into a corner by accusation or the facts, many people may come out swinging.  Look for ways to communicate that are honest but give them a gracious but very definite way out of the mess they have created.
  • Work the Plan- Although it truly is an attitudinal issue they are struggling with, it’s best to focus on their actions, and help them to discover their own attitudes that are the root cause for the behaviors.  Help them develop their own list of challenges they see, and to write a plan for effectively dealing with each issue in a constructive and timely manner.  It’s crucial that there be some kind of ongoing evaluation and accountability for this tendency to overcome.

Lust for the spotlight, for resources or for power can undermine or totally overwhelm any organization where it is allowed to operate.  The great news is that as a part of the team, you don’t have to let this happen… so get out there and stoke up the synergy of your group by helping to knock out this “deadly sin” of lust!

 

 

 

When Only The Best Will Do- There’s ME…

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Vanity… if we’re honest, we’ve all been there.

We’ve looked around our neighborhood, our church, our workplace and surveyed the landscape.  At the conclusion of our perusal, we’re convinced of one thing… “I’m glad I’m me, and not them.”  Now, I’m not saying there’s anything wrong with being satisfied in your life, or with yourself.  That’s simply having a healthy and productive self-image/self-esteem in place.  If you do, then good for you!

But what happens when that “feel good feeling” starts to multiply and grow out of control?  It becomes a dangerous, even deadly cancer called Pride, and it can kill your ability to work with others effectively to achieve amazing results, whether that be in your family, social or work life.

I mentioned the  “7 Deadly Sins That Kill Synergy”… They are:

  1. Wrath(Anger)- I’ve tried to work with others before, and they just end up hacking me off!
  2. Greed(Selfishness)- I don’t want anyone else affecting my project, my job, my stuff… it’s mine….
  3. Sloth(Laziness)- I’d rather just do it myself, rather than hassle with input from other people.
  4. Pride(Arrogance)- I don’t want anyone’s help, or need it. I’m good enough without them!
  5. Lust(Unhealthy Craving)- Leave me alone! It’s my way! It’s my idea! It’s my project!
  6. Envy(Jealousy)- What if I look stupid asking for help, or someone else shows me up?
  7. Gluttony(Selfishness)- If I’m going to work this hard, I don’t want anyone to get credit but ME.

Pride does several things to attack our effectiveness and undermine our success, and all of them have one thing in common… they are all the result of the damage that Pride causes to our ability to SEE CLEARLY… Pride is a Vision Killer…

Pride will hinder and eventually destroy our ability to SEE OUR OWN WEAKNESSES.  If you turn a blind eye to something long enough, eventually that “thing” begins to fade into the background.  If those things you fail to see are your own weak spots, you’re in trouble.  Pride tells you that you are good enough without help or advice from anyone else.  It dims your vision to your own failures, lack of skill and even your lack of objectivity.  Pride pokes a stick in your eye when it comes to putting a critical eye to your own abilities and performance.

Pride can also BLINDS US TO THE SKILLS OF THOSE AROUND US  There are people that we interact with daily that can enrich both our professional and personal lives, but pride clouds our view of the positive impact that their involvement can bring.  What we SHOULD be doing is evaluating them like a coach would the players on his team, determining whose strengths would best be suited for the project, duty or even the moment.  Instead, pride encourages us that we can be the coach, player, team manager, trainer & water boy, and do it all better than anyone else can.  Can you picture a one man team on the field, wearing a self-imposed blindfold, running around the field against a fierce opponent, while there are able, strong and talented players sitting on the sidelines?  It’s ridiculous, but it’s what Pride causes you and me to do!

Finally, Pride will KILL OUR ABILITY TO SEE “WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN”.  One of the primary roles of a leader is to catch and cast a vision for his team.  But is there truly only ONE vision for any given situation or organization?  I say NO!  Thousands of possible visions exist for any particular situation or setting… but a Proud person typically only sees one vision- their own.  And that vision usually involves putting their own skills, talents and performance center stage, with all resources, energies and influence resting in their control.  They are blinded to any vision that involves giving away authority, influence or control to others.  Call it “cataracts of leadership”… the slow build up of a film of pride across their perspective and judgment.  Until they get those “pride-aracts” removed, they’ll never see the wealth of talent and potential that surrounds them… and any synergy that could have been created from bringing those energies together will never be realized.
So how do you help someone whose Pride keeps them from seeing the potential synergy of working with others?
If it’s YOU, and you’ve figured out it’s you, then it’s simple.  STOP IT!!! YOU NEED HELP!!!  Really, it’s that simple!  Realize that you do better, go farther, succeed more often, and accomplish more when you synergize with the talents and efforts of others as a part of the process!  It doesn’t mean that you are not good enough… what it means is that you have greatness within you, and the only way to unlock that leadership is with the key of synergy that others bring with them to the task

Pride... it's a killer of Synergy!

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If it’s SOMEONE ELSE that is allowing their Pride to hinder or block their vision to the value of working with others, then the job is slightly more complicated.  Your options are:

1) Just talk to them… lay the problem out simply, but without attacking them.  Share what you see as the value of working with others, and include in that discussion that others are also missing out on successes and growth, because the person in question is not sharing himself/herself with the group.  Remind them that they have much to offer to others.

2) Encourage them to give it a “test run”.  Encourage them to open themselves up to work with others on a short-term project, task or event.  Before this trial run begins, have them break down a list of the potential benefits and pitfalls of working with the group, and then to journal along the way to see if their expectations were correct.  They will most likely be surprised when they see the benefits far outweighing any negatives they might encounter.

3) If you feel qualified, offer to mentor them in this process.  Involve them in a team project that you are leading, and help them see the “play-by-play” issues of delegation, communication, accountability, assessment & reassessment of the task and plan, and so on.  It’s very possible that Pride is simply a mask for the true underlying issue of Insecurity.  It may be that no one has ever modeled synergy for them before, and they are simply afraid of the unknown.


So be encouraged… Pride doesn’t have to be the killer of your organization, of your team, or even of your own career!!! Face it head on, and don’t let it blind you to the unlimited potential that lies ahead!