Month: April 2015
Consider the wisdom in the following quotes, and use them as guideposts in your own journey as you face conflict.
“The harder the conflict, the more glorious the triumph. What we obtain too cheap, we esteem too lightly; it is dearness only that gives everything its value. I love the man that can smile in trouble, that can gather strength from distress and grow brave by reflection. ‘Tis the business of little minds to shrink; but he whose heart is firm, and whose conscience approves his conduct, will pursue his principles unto death.”
Aberjhani, The River of Winged Dreams
“Quote words that affirm all men and women are your brothers and sisters.”
Shannon L. Alder
“Sometimes, God doesn’t send you into a battle to win it; he sends you to end it.”
“You cannot fix a problem in the world unless you’ve already resolved the underlying conflict within yourself.”
“Whoever fights monsters should see to it that in the process he does not become a monster. And if you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss will gaze back into you.”
“At the root of every tantrum and power struggle are unmet needs.”
“You can’t shake hands with a clenched fist.”
“The hottest places in Hell are reserved for those who in time of great moral crises maintain their neutrality.”
“Any problem, big or small, within a family, always seems to start with bad communication. Someone isn’t listening.”
“Pick battles big enough to matter, small enough to win.”
“Great ideas often receive violent opposition from mediocre minds.”
Martin Luther King, Jr.
“True peace is not merely the absence of tension: it is the presence of justice.”
“Imagine a wall that’s green on one side and red on the other. You stand on one side and only see green. I stand on the other side and only see red. We’ll both be right about the color we see, even though we disagree on what color the wall is. Being able to realize that the other person has a valid point, even if you disagree with it, that’s maturity.”
Lailah Gifty Akita
“You don’t always have to fight to win. Give peace a chance.”
Mohandas K. Gandhi
“Honest disagreement is often a good sign of progress.”
“No matter how thin you slice it, there will always be two sides.”
There is no such thing as a “self-made man/woman”… You obviously had a lot to do with the kind of person you are today, but don’t doubt that others played a huge role. Some were builders in your life, others served as wrecking crews. Each had a part, invited or not, welcomed or denied, in building the YOU that is YOU.
Those that poured into you to challenge and sculpt you into a better human may never ask for an accounting of your life, or the time and effort spent helping you grow.
But I will.
Are you making them proud? Is your life something that would encourage them? Is the person you see in the mirror someone that is working to grow, serve and make the world a better place? Let me suggest that if the answer is “no”, or if you’re unsure, that you consider these 3 simple things:
- What words would my five closest friends use to describe me as a person?
- How would my spouse and/or children describe my impact on their lives?
- If you asked those you work for, work with or lead, to describe you as a person, would you be happy with their characterizations of you?
Life, your life, is an epic story. It’s not about being the hero. It’s about inspiring those before you and those behind you with a life of character and passionate love.
Life is short, and it’s precious. Those people who sacrificed a portion of their short and precious lives did so because they thought you were worth it.
Go prove them right.